The feeling that nobody gives a s#!t!
One of the hardest things to deal with when it comes to depression is that niggling voice inside your head that keeps telling you, nobody gives a shit. Some days It’s easy to tell that voice to shut up, and some days it’s not.
On days when the nobody gives a shit voice is loud, obtrusive and shouting in your ear, it’ s hard not to listen.
The nobody gives a shit voice has no preference for the time of day it appears. It doesn’t care what you’re doing or how well things have been going; And sometimes, if you’re really lucky, it will bring its best friend, the past! Together they proceed to tell you about all the other times’ nobody gave a shit either.
It doesn’t seem to matter who you are, your level of intelligence or even your ability to think logically. The nobody gives a shit voice can enter your mind anywhere, anytime, unannounced and stay for as long as it pleases.
The thing is, very often, you know there are lots of people who do in fact, give a shit. Never the less the pain still engulfs you. Like being stood with your back to a tsunami, it catches you unaware and then all of a sudden, you’re drowning.
Stand up to the voice
Getting swept along by the tide is easy. If you’re not aware of what is going on a downward spiral into the depth of despair can ensue. It is important to make your stand straight away and say NO to the nobody gives a shit voice!
First and foremost it is essential to recognise the voice because sometimes it can sneak in a little incognito.
It could be just a simple thought; A friend didn’t answer the phone. Therefore, they must be too busy for you!
It could be disguised as a feeling of loneliness when you’re not lonely at all. Depression can be an evil entity holding you hostage inside your own head and isolating you from reality.
Be aware that the nobody gives a shit voice is a shapeshifter and learn to recognise the early signs it’s on its way!
However, if you do miss the signs, it’s not too late. There are steps you can take to get it back in the box as soon as you realise what’s going on.
Distract, distract, distract! Find something to do quickly.
Turn on the TV, get engrossed in a new episode of your favourite Netflix show.
Pick up your latest book, e-reader or download an audiobook app and find a new one. I love Audible by Amazon I have listened to many a self-help book on there!
Getting lost in somebody else’s story will drown out your nobody gives a shit voice pretty quickly.
Go for a walk, fresh air and exercise are a great way to beat the blues; If you make your walk a mindful walk, you will be emptying your mind of all negativity with each step.
Read all about it!The HuffPost explains all in this article here.
Phone a friend or family member, I know this can be a difficult thing to do, sometimes it’s hard to reach out for help when your feeling low. But the best way to reassure yourself and shut that voice up is to chat to somebody you know (albeit in the back of your mind!) does really care.
Stay off social media! Seeing everybody else getting on with their “spectacular social media lives” is only going to make the voice shout louder.
For people who have never dealt with depression, It can be a difficult thing to understand.
It is important to remember it’s usually only the people very close to us know the real depth of our insecurities. That said, they can only understand to their level of perception and cannot possibly experience your feelings. Depression is very different for everybody.
I get it, those we are closest to are the ones easiest to get annoyed with when the voice shows up, but they are often the people who you can rely on to reassure you that the voice inside your head is a lier, a terrible one at that.
Bad friend or sad friend? If you know someone who suffers from depression or just bouts of feeling low, be the friend to let them know they are not alone and you care.
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