The other voices
Do you use other voices? My sister says I do! To be perfectly honest I didn’t not know when she pointed it out to me. In fact, I have several voices. I have my actual voice, a telephone voice, an in the shop voice, a disapproving voice and the list goes on.
There also seems to be different personalities that accompany my other voices. Not in a lock me up and throw away the key kind of way (my kids might tell you otherwise!) just different variations of me.
That said, each different voice and personality are only a slight modification of the real me. It purely depends on the situation.
Different versions of yourself competing to be the real you.
I’m sure this is pretty standard, there are circumstances in life that require a more “toned down” version of yourself. For example, at work or when meeting new people, you certainly wouldn’t want to expose the “real you” straight away.
The problem starts when you have to suppress your real self continuously, to fit in or just to meet somebody else’s expectations. It’s at this point that you begin to lose sight of yourself.
It’s like trying to squish yourself into a pair of jeans two sizes too small, eventually some of that belly’s gonna spill over! But more to the point, you’d likely be in pain.
Spending your life living to others expectations means you deny yourself the right to reach your full potential. When you have to become an entirely different person is the point where something has to give.
Before you know it, you won’t even recognise yourself anymore. Life will be slowly chipping away at your soul until one day you realise it’s gone.
Realise you’re worth more than this.
Whether it be at work or in your relationship, the point is not to continue the same path. If you have to become an entirely different person to be on it, it’s time to get off it and find yourself new way!
There’s a saying, and it goes like this; You are responsible for your own happiness; If you expect others to make you happy, you will always be disappointed.
I agree to a point, but why shouldn’t you expect other people in your life to offer some degree of something that makes you happy?
If they don’t, and all they do is cause you misery and pain, then they’re really not worth wasting your time. Why should you have to be somebody else to be the right fit?
Although you may not be able just to leave a controlling and abusive relationship or walk out of your job; You can make a plan to change that.
Talk to a friend or family member, find someone to help. You owe it to yourself to live the best life you possibly can; don’t take a second for granted. You deserve it.
You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending – C.S. Lewis
Stay true to yourself
It’s never too late to start. It all starts with realising you need to love yourself. It will be a decision you make day in day out until it becomes a habit. You can find the courage to be your true self once you make up your mind to do it.
Five signs you are true to yourself.
You make confident decisions without having to second guess yourself or worry about what somebody else might say.
You don’t worry about being judged or criticised unfairly.
Your inner voice is quiet, not continually nagging.
Keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself is not something you do.
You feel confident to say no when you need to.
If you aren’t doing all of these things daily, then it’s a sign you might need to start doing some life evaluation. By learning to pay attention to your own needs and desires, you can establish a strong connection with your real self and find out who you are.
There’s no time like the present! Allow your real self to shine through no matter what, because that is who you are, your fundamental self. You would be doing yourself a great injustice by not doing so.
Ultimately, a life lived, not being true to yourself will lead to depression and emptiness, you will spend your time giving when you have nothing left to give.
You need to be able to breathe easily and to live free of people holding you back or causing you suffering.
Ignite your fire, start your journey of self-discovery and when you’re feeling confident enough let yourself be free. Let everybody see your real self; there’s nothing to be ashamed of, find the courage to be true to yourself!