Games being all the “rage” taken literally kids!
There’s nothing more frustrating as a parent than having to deal with an angry, unreasonable, stressed-out child; Particularly if the anger stems from dying virtually in an online video game. The resulting “game rage” can make you lose your sh*t quicker than Usain Bolt legging it over the finish line! Seriously, kids, it’s not real life, you respawn. Get over it!
But nope, to kids, it is the absolute end of the world as we know it.
In recent weeks I have read a few articles in the news about one new online game, in particular, causing children to smash through doors, become abusive towards parents, refusing to leave the game at mealtimes or bedtimes.
Game rage is not a new concept. For parenting veterans like me with older kids, we felt the wrath of a car wreck in GTA and sniper fatalities in COD!
Id say at some point, or other most parents have come to blows with their kids over game consoles, or tablet cut off times. However, I do believe it is how you handle it as a parent that makes the difference.
Now, don’t get me wrong here I am in no way one of those judgy mcjudgeface mums who get it right all the time. By no means am I at all!
That said, I have read some of the comments under articles, and I’d have to say a lot of them were pretty mean. It’s so easy to make assumptions about how you would deal with something until you’re going through it yourself.
I firmly believe parents should support other parents, not knock them down. We are all just trying to do our best.
I’ve been through my fair share of crap with my three! That said one of the “advantages” of having kids on the spectrum is you get to attend many, many parenting skills classes! *eye starts twitching
Therefore, if you’re struggling with new ideas on how to deal with such rage; without resorting to the use of a taser or becoming a deranged psychopath; I would like to share some of my ingrained knowledge with you.
Some stuff to try…
Give a fair warning.
At least five minutes before the shutdown. Put yourself in their shoes, the game is designed to be captivating, and they’re engrossed. You cant just expect to tear them away without them getting a tad emotional! How irrational do you get over being yelled mum at for 20 minutes while you’re in the middle of something?!
Make sure the behaviour you don’t want to see is utterly clear. There can be no mistake made. Let your child know in no uncertain terms; abuse, aggression and violence are NOT acceptable. Make sure they’re also aware of the consequences of these actions. Take a zero-tolerance view on this.
Never just threaten.
If you say something, you must ABSOLUTELY follow through. Otherwise not gonna’ happen! So think before you speak! We’ve all read the story of, The Boy who cried Wolf; sheep ended up eaten I believe!
Remember who’s “in charge.”
No doubt you bought the console or at the very least pay for the internet. Without you providing, they would have nothing (ungrateful little turds!) Don’t be afraid to pull the plug if the unwanted behaviour continues.
Keep a Ransome Box!
I have one of these. Kindles, X box controllers PC plugs all live in here now and again. Only then exchanged for the right behaviour.
You find yourself correcting and doing the “telling off” so often, you forget to let them know when they got something right. Let them know how proud you are that they were able to play without getting irate!
We’ll always be playing catch up.
As long as “stuff” keeps getting invented, there will always be people who have no clue how to deal with the issues that arise from whatever said “new thing” is.
There seems to be no shortage of people who disagree with your kids owning these new fandangled contraptions!
I am by no means opposed to the occasional digital detox. However, we are here, and this is the now, the digital age. Just like Pac Man in the 80’s or Mortal Kombat in the 90’s new games and consoles will continue to be a big part of our kids lives.
Game rage seems to be pretty standard, unfortunately; I mean who hasn’t tipped a table over a game of Monopoly in their time? Teaching kids to manage their emotions appropriately is vital.
We simply have to keep evolving our parenting strategies to keep up with changing times.
**Just for fun I did interview Yvonne, aka, the mother! I asked her if there was anything that completely enraged kids my sister, me, our cousins or other peoples kids growing up (in the 80’s.) She couldn’t think of anything! Hmmmmm.